The Trusting Stage of Relationships

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Flow of Romantic Relationship Stage 4: Trusting

The past few weeks in our blogs, we’ve walked through the first three stages that most romantic relationships naturally navigate through; Crushing, Questioning & Committing. Today we’re going to explore the fourth stage which is Trusting.

4) Trusting: Allow intimacy and vulnerability to blossom

This is the stage just before engagement. As trust and love grow through vulnerability and intimacy, our natural reaction is to become close in every way to the man or woman we’re in relationship with. Physical boundaries and accountability are really important in this stage as you choose love and open your heart up to each other.

The trusting stage allows hearts to blossom into full blown love and movement towards a lasting commitment. It’s good to note that each person is free to exit the relationship at any time that they feel. Relationship is a choice and we honor each other’s choice for us. We only desire to be with someone that would choose us and would never want to force someone to stay in something they didn’t desire as well.

There were times in the commitment stage that had led to trusting with my now husband that he would be farther along than I was. That was ok. I would explain to him that I was like a flower that blossomed and would only share intimate details about myself when I felt comfortable. It is important to stay true to yourself throughout the relationship and not agree to giving more information or access than the level of commitment garners.

This is a great time to move into some kind of pre-marital counseling. An excellent course to take during this time is “Defining the Relationship” by Danny and Sheri Silk. This will open up levels of vulnerability and communication that needs to happen before making a decision to move towards marriage in the form of engagement. This can have some challenges because it brings up communication barriers and areas that may be unhealthy in the relationship, but it is essential to address many of these before marriage. Communication is key. You can get past almost anything in marriage with good communication skills.

Allow yourself to open and blossom into intimacy with the man or woman you’re committed to. Only open hearts fall in love, not closed ones. Fear causes hearts to close, but love causes hearts to open. Love is such a beautiful thing; it involves deep intimacy and vulnerability. This is also a stage where many choose to end the relationship or take steps back to work on areas of communication or areas that are not at a healthy place to move into marriage.

Please, please, please get counsel during this stage. Press into that; this is the time to do it when you have the ability to gain wisdom and insight from other married couples that have walked through some life together.  Also, sometimes we are blinded in love, so outside input is imperative. A blessing from those that you trust and are getting counsel from is important (parents, mentors, etc).  Don’t negate God’s voice through others during this time, it can be life saving.

 Excerpt is from the book,  ‘Love Unstuck’ by Wendee Mannon

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Committing: Defining the Relationship

Flow of Romantic Relationship: Stage 3

Committing: Defining the Relationship

The past few weeks in our blogs, we’ve walked through the first two stages that most romantic relationships naturally navigate through; Crushing & Questioning. Today we’re going to dive into the third stage which is Committing. This is a fun stage because it’s when the relationship goes into the next level of commitment. When enough questions have been answered that lead to a yes, a conversation should be present that secures a level of commitment. This allows trust to grow and for the woman to blossom into even deeper vulnerability along with the man.

When a lot of pressure is put onto a relationship before enough questions about future health or desire for the relationship is made, relationships can easily crumble. Either one or both parties lose interest. Many times it is the man that loses interest because he felt pressure to commit in a way that he didn’t have enough answers to do so for. Romantic relationships are built on trust. Trying to build on something other than this causes them to crumble, which is why the first two stages are so vital.

Pressure to know if something is going to work out right away causes many a relationship to fall apart. Take the pressure off and enjoy the process. The committing stage is where you are officially only dating each other.

The commitment stage is a fun adventure. It should be full of exciting dates, new experiences with your partner and time spent getting to know him or her to a greater degree.

This is when a conversation about moving into some kind of boyfriend/girlfriend or higher commitment would be a great step. I would suggest that this should come from the man, but in some cases, it would work for the woman to broach the subject. It should feel like it’s happening naturally without being forced. Trusting the Holy Spirit and your gut feeling are important at this stage. This isn’t the time to become weird and possessive, it’s the time to take the relationship into deeper levels of intimacy than it has been in and allow yourselves to walk into greater vulnerability. This is when physical boundaries may need to be established between you to maintain the purity standards and core values that are in both your hearts.

This stage is when many of the harder questions should be broached such as past relationships and past sexual history. This is when both parties should have their eyes wide open in the decision making process as well as allowing forgiveness, grace and transparency to grow. This will allow the relationship to transition into the next stage naturally, which is trusting.

At any point in time during any of these stages, our hands are open and allowing the relationship to continue or discontinue. This is a beautiful journey of choice. You want someone that chooses you continually; that grows in their affection for you, and is on a journey to discover all of you. If that’s not there, you don’t want it to move into marriage. Those ingredients are essential for a happy and healthy relationship that leads into a lifetime commitment. You should not have to convince a man or woman to stay with you or commit to you. They should be choosing that in and of themselves.

Excerpt is from the book, Love Unstuck by Wendee Mannon, CEO of OnDaySix

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Interview by Single Matters Magazine: Love Unstuck by Wendee Mannon

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Interview: Wendee Mannon’s New Book “Love Unstuck”

As a single woman, have you ever wondered how you can move forward in finding love? Wendee Mannon is the author of Love Unstuck: Be the Leading Lady, as well as, the owner and CEO of a Christian online dating site www.OnDaySix.com; and she has some wisdom for us on how to walk out this journey. She focuses on the importance of laying a foundation and knowing the different stages for relationships and why each one is necessary. I have no doubt you’ll be encouraged by what she has to say!

Holly Hrywnak: After growing up in the generation of “waiting” or only dating “the one,” what revelation did you have about dating and relationships?

Wendee Mannon: The overriding revelation I believe the Lord gave me is that I had the privilege to partner with Him to move toward my desire for a marriage relationship instead of just waiting around for something to happen. He was extending the invitation to me to be a part of the beautiful process and decision, which was incredibly empowering and stirred my hope level. The partnership would include prayer, belief, hope and action. It changed my whole outlook, and I believe, led me to my husband.

See the full interview by Single Matters magazine here!

To get more information about the book, Love Unstuck: Be the Leading Lady, go here!

Blessings,

The OnDaySix Team

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The Questioning Stage of a Relationship

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Questioning

Relationships flow naturally. Most romantic relationships go through somewhat similar stages that allow good foundations to be built; Crushing, Questioning, Committing, Trusting and Engagement. I used to want to skip through the first stages of a relationship straight to the commitment piece because I had fear connected to the initial stages.

I would meet a guy. I would be friends with a guy. I would start to like a guy. I would want the guy to come right away and talk to me about knowing that we should be together. I would want each party to ‘just know’ and take any of the choice or uncertainty out of the process. Not a good plan…….

2) Questioning: Make a good choice in the midst of options

As the relationship moves forward, that crush leads to a time of questioning. Last week we looked at Respecting the Crush (See previous blog). When this time of uncertainty and questioning comes, we can tend to want a commitment from the man or woman involved a little prematurely. More often, it seems the women want this, but it can go both ways. This isn’t realistic though. This period of time in a relationship usually has sporadic times of meeting up or occasional dates. From initial attraction and respecting the crush to the questioning stage, authentic invitation from the woman and pursuit from the man is of utmost importance. Both parties are questioning the relationship; there are normal levels of uncertainty combined with each person’s own core value system and way of making decisions that are in play at this stage. These are all important.

This time period of questioning can be very short if you have a man and woman who actually know what they want in a future mate. Where it gets confusing and drawn out is when one or both parties have no idea in the world what they’re looking for.

Most men trust their gut feeling when thinking about pursuing a woman. They won’t pursue a woman unless they feel good when around that woman. They won’t pursue a woman that hasn’t invited them to. That means that the authentic invitation is given often and with no expectation from the woman if there’s interest at this point in time. Relationship is a choice. Both parties have the same ability to choose the other person and this makes commitment a precious and valuable commodity.

In the questioning stage, it is important for the man to pursue in response to the authentic invitation and if he is interested, even with questions still in play, multiple meet ups or dates are important in this time period. This will help answer the questions and both parties will be able to make the decision if they would like to continue to see where this relationship may go.

This stage of questioning cannot be rushed. Many want to sit down and define a relationship before a good decision for commitment can be made. Women need to understand this period of time and actually enjoy it. Men shouldn’t have a conversation about commitment too prematurely without walking through this questioning stage, as many times, this will lead to pressure that can short circuit the relationship. We must see the value in the question and trust that God’s leading us to the right answer.

Men, it’s important to have a defining the relationship talk at the correct time, which is not in the questioning stage. I know Christian men feel a lot of pressure to make their intentions known very soon, sometimes too soon, which, in turn leads to big messes later when the woman finds them backing out of the relationship quickly because they weren’t ready to make that type of commitment.

This second stage can be tricky to navigate, but it can be done well and in maturity. Women can tend to want to be assured that a man is committed to them from almost the moment they meet. This is not how we as humans are built. We’re built to make choices and decisions in process based on what we desire and taking into account lots of different aspects in a relationship before making a commitment. This is a good thing. A good choice is made in the midst of options. This sounds scary to some, but we need to be able to navigate this as we journey through dating and into a committed relationship. Women who feel valuable are able to navigate this stage with grace and openness. Men who are confidant and understand that a relationship naturally takes it course will be able to navigate this well. If the relationship is good, it will move forward naturally and both parties will feel good about the process. If there is lack of value personally, usually one or the other will run away from the relationship because it feels too scary to navigate. There’s a healthy way to discontinue a dating relationship that doesn’t involve running.

Taking the pressure off of both parties during this stage is important and allows both the man and woman’s mind and heart navigate the questions to a good conclusion. Both parties should look at the relationship and know that they’ll be ok if this does not lead to a commitment; it’s part of the process and healthy. This is a fine line that requires maturity and counsel to walk out well. Make sure you have both as you embark into this stage.

This is the stage where you’re both getting to know each other from surface level to going deeper into core values for life. This should happen over a period of time and at least a few dates. Go with your feeling. If you like what you’re discovering about each other, continue on. Make sure the dates are both fun and leave room for conversation. Let the man pay in this stage on dates and initiate them, and the women should be very open and inviting if the interest is growing. Authentic invitation and pursuit are so imperative in this stage if your interest continues to grow. The next stage of relationship is Committing which we will address next week.

Excerpt from the book Love Unstuck; Be the Leading Lady by Wendee Mannon, CEO of OnDaySix.com

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Respecting the Crush

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Flow of Romantic Relationship: Stage 1

Crushing

Relationships flow naturally. Most romantic relationships go through somewhat similar stages that allow good foundations to be built. I used to want to skip through the first stages of a relationship straight to the commitment piece because I had fear connected to the initial stages.

I would meet a guy. I would be friends with a guy. I would start to like a guy. I would want the guy to come right away and talk to me about knowing that we should be together. I would want each party to ‘just know’ and take any of the choice or uncertainty out of the process. Not a good plan.

Crushing: Respect the Crush

Everyone loves that feeling, the feeling of a crush. You are excited, nervous and looking forward to seeing that person of interest. He or she makes you laugh and makes you feel all sorts of feelings that others don’t seem to have the ability to. Initially, relationships begin because two people are drawn to each other through physical, emotional and spiritual attraction. Interest in someone isn’t forced, it should come naturally.

So, you have a crush? If you’ve been lining up your value and beliefs with what God says about you, the people you are attracted to may actually be different than who you’ve previously had crushes on. This is a good thing. We will attract what we believe we deserve.

If you’re still attracted to someone that treats you poorly, I’d go back and get with God to ask Him what He says about you, your worth and how you should be treated. Continue to declare the truth of your value over yourself. This creates new pathways of thinking; scripture teaches we are transformed by the renewing of our minds,

If these beliefs and values are in order, though and you find a high quality-marriage person that you’re interested in, I say ‘respect the crush.’

Respecting the crush means definitely using the skills gained in the chapter on authentic invitation and pursuit. These are incredibly important during this stage and will allow the relationship to move forward. Keep you eyes wide open during this stage of the relationship as well to see if the values you hold stand true with this person as well.

Enjoy this time and don’t try to rush it. Most women want to skip straight to the commitment stage, but that isn’t how we’re built. We’re built to enjoy relationship and let it grow just like a flower blossoming.

Excerpt is from the book ‘Love Unstuck’ by Wendee Mannon

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Love Unstuck: Be the Leading Lady

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“I know Wendee to be a woman who can speak to the issues and the character of a woman’s heart clearly and convincingly. I highly recommend Love Unstuck to any woman seeking to have a life long, quality relationship with her future spouse.”

–Danny Silk, President of Loving on Purpose and Author of Keep Your Love On

Love Unstuck is a practical and powerful look into healthy relationships. Wendee shares her own struggles and victories in her journey. Her story and insights will inspire you to great beliefs and great actions concerning relationships with men. I believe this book will increase the likelihood of good things happening in this important area of life.”

–Steve Backlund, Founder of Igniting Hope Ministries and Author of Igniting Faith in 40 Days

LOVE UNSTUCK: Be the Leading Lady

When we boil it down, life is really all about our relationship with God. We cannot be satisfied outside of Him. Not even a spouse can fill that God-shaped hole in us. From Him we get the love and acceptance we need because He is the lover of our soul. Out of Him, love and marriage and desire were created. Union – oneness – was His idea. Since desire comes from the Father, the longings that we have, find their origins in Him. Consequently, it’s His heart that longs for us to know and experience the kind of union that exists between Christ and His church, which we find mirrored in marriage.

Do you have a desire for marriage and a desire for partnership with a Godly man to spend your life with? I believe if you have that desire, God placed it there for a reason. He wants to fulfill that desire.

This book is designed for women who desire Godly partnership in marriage and want to move forward in that; it may be helpful for those who may feel like they are a little stuck or like they need a jump-start into love.

My intention is  to help you move forward with God towards your desire for marriage. God’s timing is perfect, but sometimes He’s waiting for us to take a step towards our desires so He can partner with us in the journey. His love is catalytic. It propels us into our dreams and desires.

This isn’t about a 12 step plan or finding love in 60 days; it’s about aligning our hearts and beliefs with what God has for us and taking steps towards that with Him. It’s about being authentically you and living from that place which will then, in turn, attract an authentic, marriage minded man.

This book is compiled with insights, thoughts and practical steps that I learned in my 33 years of singleness. This process led me to the man of my dreams and the love of my life. My passion is to share this journey with like minded women who desire what I did – a fulfilling marriage to a Godly man.

I am often asked by single, marriage-minded women how they can move forward in finding love. I wrote this guide as a response to that question to help them walk that road. Through navigating that journey personally to now owning an online Christian Dating site (www.OnDaySix.com) for Kingdom minded singles and offering personal relationship coaching for men and women of all ages, I feel the Lord has given me both the passion, breakthrough and assignment to help men and women connect into Godly marriages across the globe.

God is breathing on the area of singleness in the Church. He is releasing His heart and strategy for multitudes to enter healthy and happy marriages because this union is a display to the world of Christ’s catalytic love for the Church.  You are an empowered woman in this process and this is the time to fully realize and live from that place.

Here’s 7 things to remember as you read this book and navigate the romantic relationship and dating journey:

1. It is a journey.

Once in awhile you meet someone that married the first person they dated. I’ve only met one guy that this happened to. For whatever reason, for most, this process is a journey of self-discovery, partnering with God all while opening your heart to love from a place of being loved by God. It takes faith, patience, perseverance and divine guidance to make such a huge choice.

2. Don’t force it to happen.

I’ve seen a few relationships that people made happen and had to keep making happen. The journey of dating and choosing a spouse should be done with the understanding that God is big enough to ‘hook’ you up. You get to partner with Him and move forward. We saw in the Bible what happened when Abraham decided to make something happen. Ishmael’s can add more problems than we were meant to deal with in relationship. You have an excellent ‘gut feeling’ because the Holy Spirit resides inside of you and guides you. Go with your peace.

3. Resting in God during the process is your best choice.

When I trust, He succeeds.” Corrie Ten Boom

I love this quote. It states the gift that Christ gave us and our mindset as He purposed for Christians. He asks us to trust Him with our everything, all of the time. We get to walk forward in faith and allow Him to be in charge of the final result. That doesn’t mean we sit around and do nothing. God can’t steer a parked car. We get to focus our thoughts and intentions on His good plans for us as we take risks and move forward in and towards love; truly a beautiful process. He then is the one that brings the fulfillment of our desires as we move forward with Him.

4. Surround yourself with encouraging comrades.

Dating and romantic relationships can have ups and downs. Navigating yourself towards a relationship will present opportunities to get advice and bounce situations off friends as well as share the joys and challenges of love. Surround yourself with Godly, like-minded individuals that help keep your focus on God’s goodness and remind you how amazing you are.

5. Dating is not a flippant activity.

Dating can have a connotation of being ‘bad’ in the Christian world. The actual definition of dating from the dictionary is: a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple. Dating is for mature people looking for a spouse, and that will be the way the term is used within context in this book.

6. You are fully complete as a single woman.

You are lacking nothing as a single woman in God. You’re fully complete. A husband is not your destiny nor does a husband make you complete. You are already complete in God. You can live a fulfilling and happy life before marriage.

7. Remember: You are amazing!

Keep this at the forefront of your mind. You are incredible. Enjoy the journey. You are the leading woman in your own love story accompanied by a God who loves you more than you could imagine.

–Wendee Mannon, CEO/Owner of OnDaySix.com and Author of Love Unstuck

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Get More Activity on Your Profile-5 Quick Tips

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Want more activity on your OnDaySix profile? Well, who doesn’t want more activity really?…If you’re on the site, we assume you’re looking to connect with other Kingdom Minded Singles in the hopes of a significant romantic relationship that hopefully leads to marriage. (If this isn’t you, you can easily delete your own profile on your account page on the bottom right with the delete button.)

Here’s 5 quick tips to get more activity:

1) A Clear Profile Picture

Out of our thousands of members, we see many great profile photos. Guaranteed, these get more activity. Do you look at a profile that you can’t decipher the picture or worse, there’s a big question mark in the place where their face should be?? NO. We do see many question marks in the place of where your faces should be. Take a moment to upload a nice photo of yourself and see the activity on your profile increase. 99.9999% of people will not look at a profile that has no profile picture.

Note: To set your profile picture (avatar), there is a box that you get to arrange in the spot that you want on your picture to show the area that you’d like to highlight. Many people forget to utilize this feature and part of their faces are cut off or not seen. Check to make sure you’ve highlighted the part of your profile picture you want to show to other members searching the site. Using pictures that are less than 1MB will make the process quicker and easier and lo-res pictures show up clear on our site.

2) A Completed Profile

This seems self explanatory, but many people leave large portions of the information on their profile blank. People that are seriously utilizing the site are looking for complete information. Taking the time to fill this out will show other members that you’re serious about meeting a quality person. Not filling this out will show other members…well, you can guess what is projects out.

3) Short & Sweet Wins the Prize

Many times when someone clicks on your profile and they see a novel to read at first glance, they move onto the next. It can feel overwhelming to read so much information when the job of a profile is to give a quick snapshot of who you are.  Keep it short, sweet and make sure that your personality shines through. If you’re funny, sarcastic, thoughtful, quirky, or any other number of adjectives that describe YOU, make sure that’s shining through when people read your profile. Leave out detailed information about your past, a quick snapshot will spark interest and conversations should be had at a later date with all the details.

4) Send Out Friendly Winks or Emails

Many people sit back and wait for someone to contact them. This is the exact opposite of partnership with God to move forward. Take time and make finding someone a priority in your life. Send out friendly winks or emails, or if you’d like, we have guided communication through questions that you can utilize. Have PATIENCE and be PERSISTENT. Anything worth having and keeping in life takes both of these traits.

5) Get On Your Profile Regularly

Either something is a priority in your life or it’s not. Take time to be on the site regularly. Many new members sign up daily, so it’s always good to keep active and check your age range of members globally. We have members from all over the world, and we know from personal experience that distance is not an obstacle to God.

We hope you meet someone amazing!

Blessings,

The OnDaySix Team

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Dating an Introvert

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Dating an introvert can hold some mystery if you tend to carry more extrovert tendencies in your personality. To help with this journey, we’ve compiled some tips from our own journeys as you embark into the unknown. Disclaimer: there’s always an exception with personality traits.

Let’s clarify what the definition of an introvert is. Basically, someone who recharges their batteries through solitude and reflection. Many introverts are social and can be outgoing and look somewhat extroverted. Also, many people sit on the edge between extrovert and introvert. Extroverts get their batteries recharged by being around people. Those who sit on the edge of the two personality types can switch at any moment, so this is good information to hold in any relationship.

One skill that should be emphasized that will help with every part of a relationship is COMMUNICATION. We’re highlighting why this is especially important when dating an introvert.

1) ASK.

If you have a question about something that seems to be going on with your introverted date, ASK. Open up the lines of communication. If they don’t feel comfortable sharing, that’s ok. But it’s always best to ask and allow the relationship to go deeper. Many times, an introvert will not share unless asked to, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship.

2) GO DEEP.

Fluffy conversations or what seems fluffy to them, tend to bore an introvert. They want to go deep and share what to them is meaningful connection. Extroverts can spend hours bantering back and forth with movie quotes and song lyrics and leave happily entertained and fulfilled. You’ll find an introvert retreating to their phone during these outbursts or quietly observing this strange interaction from afar. That doesn’t mean an introvert doesn’t appreciate these types of interactions, they just may need a recharge session after this occurs.

3) SCHEDULE.

Make sure if you are spending the day with your introverted partner that you allow times of rest from groups of people. Schedule times where it’s just the two of you between social gatherings or times to just recharge over a cup of coffee or a movie. Communicate the schedule with them and both of you can come to a decision on the plan. It will take frustrations out of the day and allow for life to be lived well for both parties, extrovert and introvert. Social interactions with large groups will tend to drain an introvert.

4) PRIORITY.

Communicate events or occurrences that are very important to you through your words. Extroverts have a lot going on socially, so communicating which events you’d really like them to be with you at will be important. They will make a priority if they know it’s important for you. You can go out and do things without your introverted partner. It will be important if you’re extroverted that you also make this a priority and communicate well through these situations.

5) SILENCE.

Don’t get nervous when it’s quiet. Silence is golden for an introvert. They will need times of no talking because talking will require thinking and they think through things in times of quiet. This can be a little challenging for an extrovert because talking helps them process and think through things. Again, communicate through this.

6) ENJOY.

Even through your differences, many healthy and successful relationship occur between introverts and extroverts. Enjoy each other and have fun.

Blessings,

The OnDaySix Team

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Anointing for Marriage

ID-10017099The church as a whole seems to have  swung the pendulum all the way over to the wait until you hear from God to ask someone for coffee in years past, and I believe as a whole, we’re trying to recover from over spiritualizing marriage and how people are to connect and involve God in their romantic relationships. There’s been tons of progress in this area, which is very encouraging!

If you’ve read any of my blogs or seen any of my videos, you know I’m super practical when it comes to making a wise decision concerning marriage. I’ve seen too many of ‘the one’s’ end in divorce. With that said, though, I believe in God’s anointing in regards to marriage and I believe He’s releases a greater level of this in 2016. Once I made a decision about my husband, the prophetic began to flow around our future, but it was not until the decision was made that His momentum came. God honors our decisions when they’re done in wisdom and with Godly input.

Also, I needed to take practical steps forward for God’s momentum to join me in this journey of relationships. Once I decided to not just be a sitting duck and participate with God in a journey towards love, He began to move. Just like every other area of life! For more on this, you can read my story here.

(Luke 4:18-19 NKJV) “The Spirit of the LORD is upon Me, Because He has anointed Me To preach the Gospel to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To set at liberty those who are oppressed; {19} To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD.”

What is anointing? Boiled down, it’s Holy Spirit.  I’ve been captivated by God’s presence and anointing lately because it touched a very personal area that I’ve been believing Him for recently in an incredibly powerful way. I’ve come to appreciate His anointing or presence to a new level and believe that God wants to anoint connection into marriage relationships.

Anointing can be looked at similar to oil in a car. When a car lacks oil, it’s only a matter of time until the engine will burn up. It’s dangerous for anyone in the car or around the car. But, the purpose of oil in the engine is for things to run smoothly and without struggle. We use oil for cooking because the food won’t get stuck when we use it.

God gave us the person of the Holy Spirit for things to be easy because He already finished it all and did the work.  That’s what heaven in its fullness is, no pain, tears or death with fullness of joy and ease and perfect relationship with God and others. Our job description is to bring heaven to earth which includes perfect relationship through Christ with the Father. As Christians, we all have Holy Spirit, it’s when we partner with Him in all things that the things of daily life gain ease. Do I understand why at times there’s more of an anointing for a certain healing or area of life? No. Do I understand why some things are so hard even when I’m believing for God’s ease in an area? No. All I know is that when His presence and power come, everything changes. When His anointing comes, things that would normally take years happen in a moment.

So, I believe that God’s anointing for marriage is in this year of 2016. We get to partner with Holy Spirit practically and with wisdom. I believe that right relationships do have an ease to them. Does that mean you don’t hit hard stuff or questions? No. I believe it means that His peace and presence help guide you through that, but you have a sense of His peace, ease and Presence throughout the relationship.

I’m feeling so strongly to declare the ease of heaven over marriage connections for those who have been faithful to take steps this year. There’s many who have done the daily practical work of allowing His healing and wholeness into their lives and now His anointing can land and bring acceleration without struggle in this area of relationship.

2016: The Year of Anointing for Marriage!

Wendee Mannon, CEO OnDaySix

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Risk = Reward

ID-10069539In life and relationships, risk usually equals a reward. Disclaimer: Done with wisdom! This journey of moving towards love involves ‘putting yourself out there’ in the dating world in ways that may seem terrifying at the most and stretching at the least. These stretching steps which can include but are not limited to jumping into the online dating world actively, attending a speed dating event, allowing yourself to be set up by friends, getting relationship coaching, showing interest in someone, and the list goes on.  I remember taking all of these risks while I was single (except Speed Dating as there was never that option presented). I get the privilege of being  a part of many of you ‘stepping out’ into some unknown and sometimes scary situations. I understand it can be challenging and rewarding all while sometimes being just plain downright scary.

We take these risks in other areas of life. Think about it. We get a personal trainer at the gym, advance in our education through schooling of all sorts, adventure in new ways, attend conferences for work and spiritual advancement etc, etc, etc, but this area of the heart and relationships can be especially scary and unknown. The risk feels overwhelming sometimes, especially if we aren’t quite seeing the reward we thought we would or as quickly as we hoped. Sometimes it feels as though we may be treading in water that is taboo so to speak. But we do it in every other area…that is always so interesting to me. I wonder why that is?

Congratulations on taking risk in this area of relationship, it’s something to be proud of. Not everyone does it. It takes courage. It takes opening your heart up. You’re planting seeds into relationship. You’re planting seeds that will grow into something substantial and lasting, but as God likes to do, we can sometimes sow seeds in one field only to have the harvest pop up in a different field. Or we can sow in a field and we reap the harvest in that same field. We don’t really know and most the time can’t predict.

You could be spending time developing relationships around you at your church or workplace and God may connect you through the online medium. You could be taking time investing in relationship online and meet someone at your local coffee shop. Who knows what God will do?  One thing we do know is He is faithful to bring His best to pass in our lives.  All He asks is we take steps forward into those things in faith, even if it’s the size of a mustard seed, and sometimes those steps look and feel very risky.

“I planted, Apolos watered, but God caused the growth.” 1 Corinthians 3:6-8

So, we live with expectancy of God’s goodness invading our lives, but we take the expectations off of the ‘how’ it will take place.  We take risks knowing that God blesses faith and we pepper that road of steps with thankfulness. Being thankful and having gratitude actually changes the neuroplasticity of our brains. That’s a really big deal.

Happy Wednesday!

Risk = Reward.

Wendee Mannon, OnDaySix CEO

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