It just takes time to get to know someone. This stage is risky because you know at any point the other person (or you for that matter), could just change your mind and walk away.
The basic summary was this: Hubby is easy going, laid back, safe, and low key. He’s a good match for wife who is high spirited, a go-getter, strong willed, perfectionist, high energy (and sometimes high maintenance) - hey, what do you expect when you marry a Ferrari?